Review | The 5 Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

by Gary Chapman

Summary (from Goodreads)

Simple ideas, lasting love

Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge! How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life?

In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.

The 5 Love Languages is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work.

Review | 2 stars

The short of it: While I appreciate the 5 love languages quiz, I could have gone entirely without reading the book. It provides no additional insight beyond what’s provided in the quiz results.

Gary Chapman takes a haughty tone in recounting story after story of how his advice fixed marriages. I agree that sacrificial love has an important place in long-term, committed relationships and marriages; we cannot merely rely on the feeling of emotional love in every moment of our romantic partnerships. However, I do not care but for so many of the countless stories and recommendations. Many of the recommendations Chapman gives at the end of the chapters focused on the individual love languages are cold, calculating, and impersonal, leaving a sour taste at the conclusion of the book.

I would seriously recommend skipping the book and sticking with the 5 Love Languages quiz as a stand-alone.


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